Be A Good Listener
Posted on 10/25/2009
Very few people are good listener. Most people are so intent on making a good impression that, instead of listening when another person speaks, they are thinking about what they are going to say next. A good listener is able to suspend his or her own thoughts and feelings in order to hear what the other person is saying.
When you listen well, you listen with more than your ears, you listen with your mind and your heart as well. And as you listen, you begin to see things from another point of view. Good listening promotes closeness and understanding.
Be a good listener, and you will have a new friend in no time.
A good way to show someone you are listening to what he or she is saying is to ask specific questions. Ask someone to clarify or describe in more detail something he or she is talking about to show that you are really listening.
Another way is to mirror what has just been said. For example, when the person you are talking to say, "I'm really excited abut my upcoming trip to Europe," you say, I can tell that you are really looking forward it."
When talking with someone, a certain amount of silence is okay. When the other person says something, it is not necessary to jump right in with a response. Sit with the silence for a few seconds and reflect before you reply. Taking time to think about what has been said is another way to show that you are listening. If the pause turns into a lull in the conversation you can always go back to what you are talking about before.
You may think this all sounds contrived and manipulative, but it really isn't. What I am actually suggesting in each instance is that you concentrate on really being with the person you are talking to. Being a good listener is a skill that will not only help you in beginning a relationship with someone you are attracted to, it will help make you a desirable person to be with in nay situation.
People who are liked know how to make other people feel special and important by listening intently to what they say.
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Comments
#1 I hate man that don't listen.
ANGIE)CA on 01/02/2010
I hate man that don't listen. So ppl outhere pay more more attention in your women.
#2 Bal, bla, bla that's what i
Haterno on 01/02/2010
Bal, bla, bla that's what i hear from women. :)
#3 Listening takes effort and
Graphicghana on 01/02/2010
Listening takes effort and patience as you allow your partner to explore his or her thoughts and feelings at his or her own pace. The primary task of a listener is to stay out of the speaker’s way.
The best way to listen is to stop whatever you are doing and focus on your partner. Look at your partner attentively just as the eyes of God are towards the righteous and his ears attentive to their cry
#4 Researchers have discovered
DatingCare on 01/02/2010
Researchers have discovered that men and women
listen differently. Women listen with both sides of
their brains, while men listen with just the right sides
of their toes.
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