EmotionaL Couples

Posted on 11/19/2009

Couples that are consumed by emotion have their own special problems, most of which remain unresolved because of the nature of their relationship. Emotional relationships tend to be primitive. What id felt is expressed and feelings are translated into action before hay are considered, questioned, or reviewed fro their reasonableness or appropriateness.

There is a very little sorting in highly emotional relationships. Everything becomes a crisis of criplling preoccupation from an ambiguous message on the answering machine to a social slight. Worry consumes such couples. The partners are so concerned with every emotional detail, see so much potential danger everywhere, and assume the worst possible outcome that they are not able to concentrate and work effectively.

There are so many emotions in the air that it is difficult to put a value on the importance of a particular feelings. Emotions are rarely resolved, instead, they are simply flung out at random. Expressing one hurt just leads to expressing another. The victims becomes the villain. And the real issues behind the feelings get lost.

Each of the highly emotional partners in this kind of relationship gives the other a peculiar acceptance that he gets nowhere else. Expressing all emotions, no matter how farfetched or exaggerated is understandable to the other.

After all, they do the same thing have seen people who have lost their confidence and immersed themselves in emotional and highly destructive relationships in order to embrace the punishment and highly destructive relationships in order to embrace the punishment of being together rather than risk taking responsibility for themselves. It is easy to lose yourself in a relationship where it is hard to tell where you leave off and the other person begins.

In order to solve problems in any relationship, it is necessary to become distanced from the fray. In a highly emotional relationship, however, feelings can be so intense on both sides that the only way to solve problems is to end the relationship.

There is a balance between the intellect and the emotions in all lasting relationships. The rule is that should be a defense against the other. Where there is a tendency to be intellectual, you need to remember what it is you feel. Where there is a tendency to be emotional, you need to ask yourself what is is you think.

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