Heal And Forgive

Posted on 11/30/2009

Couples must confront another common obstacle before they can make changes in their life: they must learn to deal with past hurts or anger in a way that keeps it from damaging their relationship.

All of us get angry at times with our partner. Our expectations of each other are very high. We want out partner to meet our needs, cure our ills, heal our wounds, and fulfill many different roles for us, and we never get exactly what we would like.

Over and over again we must forgive our partner's failings and limitations. Letting go for our small resentments and disappointments. If we fail to learn this lesson, we are nearly doomed to unhappiness in our relationship. Aw e learn this lesson, letting go of our anger, we clear the pathway of debris and allow ourselves to continue our forward movement toward what we want of all.

Learn to let your anger go over and over again. If both partners continue to let go of the small grudges, rather than accumulating resentments, they may be able to approximate the love and lovemaking they desire and heal each other's wounds.

It is like meditating. In meditation you have a focus, such as your breathing. You realize that it is very hard to remain aware of your breathing and your thoughts and feelings will constantly pull you away, the goal is to come back over and over again to your breath, learning to pay attention to the present in the present.

Similarly with love. You will find many obstacles in your path to being a loving person, but that is normal. Simply come back to your loving and your forgiving over and over.

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