My Version Of What Is Romantic

Posted on 12/24/2009

The object of this exercise is to define your notion of a romantic time together and share it with your partner. While it is wonderful for your partner to anticipate your needs, it is always important to share them .

Making your needs known is the first step to getting them fulfilled. To do that describe to your partner in as much detail as you can what you consider an ideal time. The following points are to guide you:

• The time of day and the places you consider most romantic
• The actions of your partner that you consider most romantic
• The activities you d like to share with your partner

Everyone has a different version of what is romantic. For me,romance is sharing the anticipation of discovery and adventure together exploring new roads, meeting new people having the time to be us.

Romantic means to be glad to be sharing our perceptions of the world together. There may be little sexuality in your description of romance. While romantic times may become lost in sexual ardor, some of the most romantic times have very little sex in them.

The essence of romance is the kiss that is an end in itself. You kiss because you like being there You kiss absorbed in the touch of faces and the soft murmur of closeness and breathing. A romantic kiss is not concerned with where it wili go.

A romantic kiss seals a moment forever Its hallmark is its completeness, not necessarily its innocence It transforms a rainy evening under street lamps into a cherished memory. A kiss at a momentary stop at a scenic roadside turnout turns a mountain range into a personal possession.

Under the spell of a kiss, observing the curvature of the earth together becomes a reflection of the cosmic expansiveness of your feelings for each other. A kiss is the whole world.

Romance doesn’t happen all the time because there are other matters that intrude. You need to take care of your emotional loose ends before you can be romantic. This is why romance is so much more common in relationships that are just starting.

The partners have no old unexpressed emotions blocking their feelings. If you wish to rekindle the romance in your relationship, you first need to be able to speak your feelings. Romantic love is the stuff of a wellmanaged relationship.

It can be yours if you are willing to plan for it. Romance needs time and space. Romance is a framing of reality in a particular attitude, the belief that everything out there in this world is there solely for the two of you.

The world is your stage and your love is the great performance. It is heady business and requires two free people willing tO celebrate being together, committing to being each other’s, and resolving whatever comes between you in anticipation of more good to come.

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