Remembering Why You Are Together
Posted on 01/02/2010
When a relationship is not going well it’s easy to forget why we ever joined forces in the first place.
We feel sorry for ourselves, complain about our partner, and catalogue our disappointments. We become immersed in negativity to convince ourselves that our situation is hopeless, that we should leave, and that we are no longer obliged to be our best.
All partners need to learn to trust the love between them and to remember how good it was when they were in love. Still, suddenly falling out of love feels so devastating that partners want to give up before they have really given their love a chance to prove itself.
Your memory of the good times is your strength, but it is also your potential undoing. You cannot use your memory of the happy times to coat your anger with numbness.
Your love must be real to be full. So you must permit yourself to feel your disappointments, to see your partner in ever clearer focus, and to learn to accept and finally to love the real persons you see emerging before and within you.
A good relationship brings you closer to yourself as well as the person you love, makes you more lovable, and gives another dimension of being to your life, being alone together.
Remember why you are together: to live your life from both sides.
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Comments
#1 Is very important to rember
loverwolf on 01/02/2010
Is very important to rember why you are togetherm but we usually forget about it.
#2 I think it happens because we
restme on 01/02/2010
I think it happens because we are to busy to think for our relationship, but ew you are right. Happy New Year.
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