Sharing Your Fantasies With Your Partner

Posted on 01/05/2010

The purpose of this exercise is to heighten your sexual awareness and inventiveness. People have sexual fantasies all the time. Many people are embarrassed by them, some feel guilty because these fantasies involve people other than their mates and sometimes even members of the same sex, so there is a fear of revealing these thoughts.

Everyone has a wide range of sexual thoughts but this does not mean anything other than your mind is active and you are stimulated by a wide variety of interests. A large percentage of the population has homosexual thoughts.

This does not mean that these people are homosexual. We all had mothers and fathers and therefore learned to love people of both sexes. Often when we are lonely and introverted, we tend to wish for a closer relationship and are likely to sexualize feelings of closeness just to intensify them.

If we are fearful we can panic at the unwelcome prospect of having such feelings. The best idea is to permit yourself the freedom of feeling and imagining anything you want. Trying to inhibit such feelings always causes them to grow and then you fear losing control of these sexual fantasies.

Sharing your fantasies with your partner is a wonderful way of building intimacy and trust. To help you do that keep a notebook for several weeks in which you put down all of your sexual fantasies.

Here are some suggested titles under which to group your entries:

• Fantasies that excite me.
• Things we have done that made my fantasies come true.
• Things that would make you more sexy to me.
• Places I would like to make love.
• Rewards i have up my sleeve.
• The strange things I think about.
• Things I would like to try at least once before I die.

Leave your notebook where your partner can find it.

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