Teach Him To Feel Love

Posted on 11/23/2009

It is really possible to teach a man to love? we hear you wondering. Can he learn to express his love to me? Yes. Men can learn about loving feelings because they already have them inside. Many men keep those emotions just under cover or express them in ways women don't recognize as love.

He undoubtedly has loving feelings for you, or you wouldn't be in a relationship, men do, in fact marry for love more often than women do. Research has shown that men fall in love more quickly than women do, and 80 percent say they would remarry their wives because they love them.

So this is what you do.

Your first step is to find the things he cares about and teach him to recognize when he is feeling love by pointing it out to him. When you are both standing there looking at the kids asleep say, ''Don't you just love them."

When he is happy about his work, say, "You really love your work when it is going great , don't you?"

Another way to open up your man up to his feelings is to touch his heart. Wait for the right moment to do this, choose a time when he is in a receptive mode. Then point out the beauty of th sky, the smell of a rose, the look on your child's face, the ladybug on a leaf, or the colours of the sunset.

But don't just stay with your world of beauty. Go into his world of work and sports and point out the sensitive things to be ssen there the lush green of the infield, the beautifull colors in his favorite tie, the birds whistling outside the window of his office.

Remember the world you have in common. You can refresh-his memory about a wonderful moment you shared by reminding him of the day your child was born or the time the two of you stood by the ocean. The point is to find something that touches him. Find his soft spot. In these days you can touch his heart and awaken his sensitivity.

Try whispering at his ear " I love you, You are really a good man" do that once a week at least.

Make him feel good about about himself and connect this with feeling of love by saying something truw and nice about him. This it will hel him get more and more comfortable with love and connect it with things that are pleasant and comfortable and safe.

Keep in mind that many men suffer from love anxiety. Not that they don't want love, they do. It is just that they are uncomfortable with the closeness and the softness that comes with these feelings and which creates such a sense of vulnerability. He will want to protect himself from this feeling, since thst is exactly what is expected of him as a man. So keep the long term view in mind and help him get used to opening his heart little by little over time.

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