The Promise Of Passion

Posted on 10/30/2009

When i think of the promise of passion between people who are in love, i have very specific images in mind and they have little to do with sex. I think about incidents from almost everyone's childhood when you are sitting around at loose ends and your best friend shows up out of nowhere with some idea for something to do, which makes you incredibly happy to be with your friend and do that thing. That is passion.

I remember when i was in high school, my best friend would phone and i would be so excited about talking to her and about what we had to say to each other that I would lock myself in the darkness of a closef so that no one would intrude. That is passion.

I remember as a little girl in the country one summer feeling so excited i coundn't sleep at the thought of my best friend coming over first thing the next morning to go blueberry picking with me. That is passion.

With real passion you are filed with the kind of longing that can't be mechanically satisfied. Passion is not like what you feel when you haven't had a bite to eat all day and you are starving for dinner and you would be happy to eat the first thing that is put in front of you. Real passion is like the creative impulse you feel when someone you care about is coming to dinner and you are dying to prepare something special.

The promise os passion we make when we fall in love certainly has to do with desire and satisfaction. But it has just as much to do with fun and adventure and the pleasure of the other person's company.

When our relationship gets sick, passion is the first promise of love to get broken. If your passion was real once, it can be real again. The passion that was yours is not some mountain you have to climb again. It is still within reach. It is only buries under a pile of distractions and frustrations.

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